Give a ‘Love Language’ Gift this Christmas ♥️

It’s the most wonderful time of the year and love is in the air. Do you find yourself struggling to find the perfect gift for your loved one? Are you often left feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what they might like or enjoy? Well look no further….the five love languages are a wonderful way to gain insight into how your partner expresses their love and appreciation. These love languages were first introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman in his book, “The 5 Love Languages”. In it, he details the five ways that people express and interpret feelings of affection towards others; these include #1 Words of Affirmation, #2 Acts of Service, #3 Receiving Gifts, #4 Physical Touch, and #5 Quality Time. 

Let’s explore the five love languages and how they can help guide you in selecting the perfect gift!

No.1 : Words of Affirmation

If your significant other’s love language is Words of Affirmation, you may think it’s difficult to find a gift that conveys your feelings. Fear not! There are actually many gifts that can show how much you care and appreciate your special someone in a way that speaks to them on a deep, emotional level.

• A Customised Card: A personalised card with a heartfelt message inside is the perfect way to express how you feel about your significant other. Choose a card that reflects their personality, and make sure to include words of affirmation like “I love you” or “You mean so much to me” inside. 

• A Poem: Writing a poem can be an incredibly meaningful gesture. It doesn’t have to be long or complicated; just let the words flow freely and share what’s in your heart. Make sure to read it aloud or print it out so they can keep it forever! 

• A Photo Album: Put together a photo album full of pictures of all the special moments you’ve shared together and sprinkle in some encouraging words throughout each page or write an accompanying letter expressing how much they mean to you. This makes for an especially thoughtful gift if there are photos from trips you two have taken together or special occasions celebrated as a couple. (This can also be done digitally if you don’t have physical photos.)

No. 2: Acts of Service

Looking for the perfect gift for someone whose love language is acts of service, may be very overwhelming. How can you possibly create a Christmas gift through an act of service? Here are some thoughtful Christmas gifts that will make your loved one feel appreciated and cherished this holiday season. 

• Gift Cards and Certificates: If your loved one has a lot on their plate, they would likely appreciate having a few things taken off their to-do list. Gift cards to grocery stores, home improvement stores, or even craft stores can help them save time and energy while completing necessary errands. Another idea is to give them a certificate for lawn care services or house cleaning services – anything that can free up more time in their schedule so they can focus on what matters most to them.

• Help Around Their Home: Whether it’s helping them organise their closet or painting their walls, nothing says ‘I love you’ like offering up assistance around the house! If there’s something specific that needs tending to, like hanging new curtains or stocking the pantry, offer up your help as an act of service. It doesn’t have to be anything big, even small tasks can mean so much when done out of love and appreciation. 

No. 3: Receiving Gifts

Does receiving gifts speak most strongly to your partner? A thoughtful gift is always appreciated regardless of its monetary value. Consider giving them something unique with memories shared together or something else you are certain of that they will love. Let’s take a look at some ideal choices:  

• Something Luxurious: If you’re looking to splurge on your loved one, consider getting them a piece of jewellery or a watch. Not only will it make them feel special, but it will also last them for years to come as a reminder of your love and appreciation. You could also get them something like a spa package or an experience gift such as tickets to their favourite show or music festival. These types of thoughtful presents will be sure to put a smile on their face. 

• Something Practical: Not everyone has the budget to buy something extravagant – but that doesn’t mean they can’t get their loved one something meaningful. Consider getting them something practical that they will actually use and appreciate every day. Ideas include items like backpacks, kitchen gadgets, home decor, tech gadgets, books, clothing items, etc. No matter what you choose, make sure it’s something they need/want in order for it to truly mean something special. 

• Something Sentimental: If you are looking for an extra special gift this Christmas season, why not give the gift of sentiment? Something like a framed photo of the two of you together is sure to bring a tear (of joy) to their eye! You could also personalise the gift by making it yourself – think of handmade cards with heartfelt messages inside or even DIY artwork featuring your favourite memories together! Or personalize the gift by having it engraved. Whatever you decide to do make sure it comes from the heart as that is ultimately what matters most when giving gifts.  

No. 4: Physical Touch

If physical touch is your partner’s primary language, then why not give them something that encourages physical closeness such as cosy blankets or luxurious bathrobes? You could also surprise them with tickets to take part in some kind of activity like rock climbing or dance classes where physical contact is involved!  

• Massage Gift Card: A massage gift card is a great way to show your special someone that you care about them. Whether it’s a full body massage or just a back rub, your special someone will be able to relax and enjoy the feeling of being touched. This is a great way to show them how much you care without having to physically be there with them. 

• Cosy Blankets: Nothing says “I love you” like snuggling up in a cozy blanket on a cold winter’s night. With so many styles and colours available, it’s easy to find one that will fit your special person’s needs perfectly. Plus, if they don’t already have one, they might not even realise how much they need one until they get it!                                         

No. 5: Quality Time

If your significant other or family member’s love language is Quality Time, then you’ll want to get them something that shows how much you value the time spent together. Here are some great ideas to help you show your loved one just how special they are this holiday season. 

• Give Experiences Instead of Things: When it comes to gifts, experiences are often more meaningful than a physical object because they create memories that will last much longer than any material item. Consider getting tickets to a show or concert, booking an adventure excursion, or planning a special dinner out at their favourite restaurant. All of these experiences can help make the holidays even more special and memorable. 

• Plan an Activity Together: If you’d prefer to give something that allows you and your loved one to spend quality time together, why not plan an activity? This could be anything from taking a cooking class together, going on a leisure walk in the park, or visiting a mutual place of interest. It’s important to remember that quality time doesn’t always have to be extravagant; it can simply mean spending quality moments doing something both of you enjoy.   

“Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes. It means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person.” Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

When selecting gifts according to each person’s love language(s), it can be difficult knowing what gift fits best when trying to express our deepest affections. However, understanding which type of expression resonates most strongly with our significant other can make finding the perfect present much simpler and less stressful! Knowing our loved ones’ love languages gives us insight into how we can best communicate our feelings in ways that are both meaningful and memorable – no matter what kind of gift we decide on!

Don’t know each other’s love language? Try take an online quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes